4 Business Lessons/ Office Romance Tips from Eddie Murphy’s Boomerang

I have always admired Eddie Murphy’s original content. From ‘Harlem Nights’ to ‘Coming to America’ he has always thought outside of the box when it came to cinema. His romantic comedy ‘Boomerang’ left no stone unturned. From the script to the wardrobe and directing Murphy again showed that he knew what audiences wanted to see. In the midst of a recent movie night unbeknownst to me I uncovered some business lessons and office romance tips I just had to share.

1. Office Romances Can Get Messy – Set Clear Boundaries! The longer you put off having a real conversation about what exactly your situation is i.e dating, hook – up, monogamous – the harder its going to be. Put your cards on the table and set it free. I always find re-visiting a situation after 3-6 months is enough time to gauge trends, patterns and to determine if continuing makes sense.

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2. When You Look Good, You Feel GoodHair done, nails done, everything BIG. -MJB, Drake’s ‘Fancy’

And when you feel good, you can do anything!

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3. The Bottom Line is the Bottom Line – Never forget that you were hired to do a job! If you happen to fall in love during the process, fine. However, that’s not why you were hired. Put 1st things 1st, don’t let your numbers slip and make sure you are still adding value to the company. Or else have the guts to fire yourself!

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4. You need a tribe. These folks might be discovered inside or outside of your company. These are people you can confide in and gain insights and fresh perspective to issues that might be bothering you.

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[Part 1] – Top 10 Black Fashion Movie Moments

1. Boomerang – Decadence & Glamour

The first time I watched Boomerang I distinctly remember wanting to become some kind of executive when I grew up. Marcus Graham, played by Eddie Murphy made it seem like the coolest job ever. He was a hot-shot, advertising executive that lived the ultimate player’s life – then he meets his match in Robin Givens – a major man – eater. The film  was set in the 90’s where men happily went shopping for suits and fine touches like cashmere scarfs and silk ties.  The women of the time wore clip-on earrings, pearl choker’s, shoulder pads and hair was teased and feathered whether it flowed down your back or was shaped like a mushroom (see Halle Berry).

Other notable moments – anytime Strangé, played by Grace Jones came into the frame & John Witherspoon’s mushroom shirt/jacket/tie “you got to coordinate” moment.

Get into these looks.

2. Love Jones – Dark & romantic minimalism. A poet meets a photographer – swoon. Nina Mosely, played by Nia Long was so chill. She wore a mixture of textures in muted color palettes of black, white,  brown with very little jewelry and always a dark, vampy lip.

Spoiler alert – Music by Maxwell… that’s all!~

3. Mahogany – Diana Ross and Billy Dee Williams. Chile…get your life!

The movie was about Tracy, played by Ross leaving Chicago to become a GREAT fashion designer. She ends up in Rome, gag! This movie should be required viewing at every fashion school.

One of the most inspiring songs ever written is from this movie: (Do You Know Where You’re Going To).

True Story: Diana Ross designed some of the costumes in Mahogany

How these so-called “diverse and progressive fashion institutions” continuously miss the significance of this film..

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4. B.A.P.S

If white people can have Dumb & Dumber, and Romy and Michelle’s High School Reunion then dammit WE GON’ HAVE B.A.P.S. & Soul Plane!!! Black people, yall gonna let Halle be great!

Anyway, these “Atlanta Diva’s” started out a little rough around the edges, yet remained true to themselves; and after an intuitive trip to Los Angeles they cleaned up pretty nicely.

Listen, Halle was committed to this character.” Billz

Honey, All I know is Halle had ALL the vinyl suits!! Not to mention the most lavish hairstyles and gold teeth!

5. Carmen Jones – The pioneers on which all of the above and myself stand. Carmen Jones was SO mean that in 1992 “the film was selected for preservation in the United States National Film Registry by the Library of Congress as being “culturally, historically, or aesthetically significant.The filmed starred Dorothy Dandridge, Harry Belafonte, Pearl Bailey, Diahann Carroll and others. The costume and musical numbers are so well executed I can’t understand why we don’t have more musical films today.

I hope you enjoyed. So often I see post that list the top fashion films and they never include a black and/or minority film.

As if we don’t have careers, interest, or impact within the fashion industry. So I decided to compile my own list. These films continue to inspire and motivate me.

Come back for Part 2 later in the week. Leave a comment an let me know your favorite Fashion Films starring African Americans!

Mentor In My Head – Mara Brock Akil

Girlfriends, The Game, Being Mary Jane, her credits are endless. Whether she’s listed as creator, executive producer, or writer Mara Brock Akil does it all. And she slayyys when she does! I knew we were kindred spirits when I noticed her company logo was eerily similar to my Andinkra tattoo of The Wisdom Knot on my wrist.

“wisdom knot” symbol of wisdom, ingenuity, intelligence and patience

I believe we’re destined to work together. MARA, CALL ME SIS!!

In any event, I wanted to start highlighting people who I truly admire, and Mrs. Akil is one of those people. Scouring some interviews she’s done I decided to make a list of wisdom, did you catch that, that I’ve gleaned from her. She’s truly a mentor in my head~

On femininity “For me, being from a family of strong women with the strong Black woman image and “I’m not bowing down” thinking – I had to learn that the power of femininity is far greater than any masculine power. I’ve embraced my femininity, and I have let go of a lot of some of those fighter habits.”

On Media – “Any form of media is an opportunity to be a mirror and reflection of what we are experiencing more in the details of our life,”

On Death – “Death can be so many different things.  Death doesn’t have to be in the coffin.  A lot of us are alive, but we’re not living.”
Below are some pictures of Mara at various events, isn’t she stunning? Her smile just radiates warmth. She says that her husband is her stylist and I must say he does right by her!

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Mara with husband Salim; Image From – BeautifulBrownGirls

It’s always nice to see women of color, and women period in powerful positions in Hollywood. Its also refreshing to see more and more husband and wife duos fruitfully working together and inspiring others to do the same.

Mara is beautiful, talented and comes across as being very down to Earth. I hope one day I’ll have a opportunity to work with her. I’m hoping, I mean that tattoo and logo situation got to mean SOMETHING, right? lol

 

Slay Your Giants

Was it just me, or was last week busy as hell? It was very productive for me though, I had a call back audition yesterday morning and killed! I knew I did a good job when I looked over at the CD and she was in tears. It really touched me, shucks I almost cried myself. I did a monologue from By The Way, Meet Vera Stark, I might put up the video audition I submitted which got me the call back. Or maybe not, not sure yet. In any event, I got the part…which one I don’t know. Because after the audition I was asked if I’d be interested in playing another role, a man. I said HELLLLLLLLL YESSSSS. You know my MUTHA, Barbara Streisand played a man once. Yup, in the movie Yentl. Not only did Barbara star in it, she also directed it and received the Golden Globe for Best Director for it! First time for a woman!

Matt and I are still working on our NBC Comedy Playground pitch, it’s coming together so well. I’m so glad we decided to just go for it. What could it hurt ya know? Matt treated me to brunch at Saraghina for getting the part and we read our script out loud. Its funny. We were really inspired by those late 70’s and early 80’s comedies. I actually forgot Saraghina did brunch, so this was my first time having it. It was pretty good.

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After I wrapped up with Matt I headed home…and then Jesus tempted me. I could not resist stepping inside… Shirley and Alice was a great shopping experience. The store is filled with all kinds of vintage goodies. I chatted for a while with shopkeeper Demar Braxton from BKBOYEEZ. Such a cool guy, he also has a gorgeous line of bow-ties, all hand-made which are sold at the store as well.

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This is Demar he’s also a creative director and choreographer, and super cute! We had a lot of fun.

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Demar’s tie line…

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He was kind enough to indulge me some, and we had a little photo-shoot.

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My fav!!!

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Aside from the great clothes, they had a sweet selection of accessories, and a nice curated group of indie designers.

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After I left my heart and a $50 deposit on a couple of items I went on my merry way.

A little shadow play…

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A little face…my “intellectual” look

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Have a awesome day!

Looking Like Sex & Love At First Sight

Oh don’t mind me, I’m just getting mentally and physically prepared for another New York summer. Watching this Sex and The City episode where Carrie is wearing the slinky, white dress for her “date” with Mr. Big. The one where Samantha let it be known that Carrie wasn’t interested in HAVING sex, she merely wanted to look like it. Lately I’ve been grooving to Lauryn Hill, and Fiona Apple, The Roots, Zhane, plus a little Janet. Drumming up wardrobe ideas for the summer. Check the images below, don’t you love how bronzed everyone looks? Fiona Apple’s ‘Criminal’ video is one of my all time favorite videos.  If only NYC weather would get consistent, the closet switcheroo I did a couple of weeks ago would make sense. Instead I’m still pulling out down coats for evening chills. I am ready for slinky dresses, layered jewelry — lots of bangles, wild hair and attitude!

This video Break You Off by The Roots is another all-time favorite. Home-girls braids are taking me BACK!

In other news, I left my favorite pair of melanieDIZON shoes on the subway. I was all up & through my phone and almost missed my stop; I jumped up off at the last possible second, FELT my load was light, turned and saw my shoes continue on their journey. Meanwhile I had just picked them up for the 4th time from the cobbler. They’d got the works: new soles, heels, tightened straps and polishing. There’s some lucky SOB in Coney Island having the time of their life in my damn shoes. But on a fro-yo run — to numb the pain I stopped into the Telco and fell in love. Sure they’re NOTHING like the shoes I lost, but aren’t they sickening!!!

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Some work, some play. My friend Matt  and I are participating in the NBC’s Comedy Playground contest. We met up at Saraghina for lunch, he took some quick flicks of me outside the restaurant. My feet look ashy, but I assure you I Shea buttered down that morning! lol

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I was NOT in the mood for pizza, so I got the grilled eggplant sandwich, I added a side of fries and Matt and I churned out our pilot episode.

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When I was a teen I watched A LOT of Katie Brown, and Rachel Ashwell’s show Shabby Chic.  I love the shabby chic aesthetic.  And I love the decor inside Saraghina. It has a very rustic appeal. It’s low-key, minimal and yet very warm. Plus its quite sexy at night, even at the communal tables. The next time you’re visiting Bed-Stuy check it out!

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Bloop!

I have my 2nd audition tomorrow for a feature film that I sent in a video for earlier in the week! I am super excited about it!!!

So I’ll be logging off now to continue preparing! Enjoy the rest of the weekend!

Editorials I Love – Elle, November 2012

It’s consistently been over 60 degrees in New York and with this long holiday weekend, I decided to switch out the drag (wardrobe)!!! Plus my mother sent me a huge box of clothes, shoes and other accessories and I’m excited to revamp my look for Spring. I actually love when the Seasons change, any season. I love going through my old clothes and seeing what stays, what goes, what has lasted year after year and deciding what new to add to my wardrobe. In any event, I was at the laundro, flipping through an old issue of Elle magazine and fell and in love with this spread. Leather vest, jewel tones, bold patterns, decadent jewelry and fringe…its everything a girl needs, Enjoy!

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